“Mom is the boss.” – my niece
My sister constantly works to keep her daughter entertained and educated, always considering the balance of things. She makes sure the medicine gets taken, the bath is on time, and that the book gets read at bedtime. When things hurt, she makes them feel better. However, she also isn’t going to hold back when my niece is making a bad choice with her behavior. She is kind, but firm at the same time.
When talking to my friends who are moms, they tell me that it is one of the most challenging things they’ve ever done in their lives. They are expected to do lots of things, most of them assumed to be “mom” tasks (such as picking out clothes, making sure everyone eats a vegetable, etc.). There’s something about being a mom that requires such strength and humility all at the same time. And all of that can really take a lot of energy and time…not to mention patience. For this reason, moms everywhere really are like a boss, as my niece says. And as the boss, wouldn’t you agree that mom deserves to be recognized for her excellent work everyday?
Whether you are a mother, a child, or both, you are probably trying to figure out something to do to help make Mother’s Day special for someone close to you. I don’t know about you, but I often find it challenging to figure out what exactly to do for my mom. I feel this urge to go over the top and get her some amazing, really expensive, really fabulous gift – she did give me LIFE after all! Rather, what we have found is that our mom appreciates a simple brunch with the family all together. This year, we modified things a bit and have plans for a Zoom family hang out. It isn’t going to be nearly as special as a brunch together (especially because there won’t be pancakes), but we did what we could considering the current pandemic situation.
After considering our family’s mother’s day celebrations growing up, and what my sister has told me, there are two basic ways that mothers wish to be appreciated: with alone time and time with loved ones. After working so hard to make sure that everyone gets to their sports practice on time, or that the dog is fed, moms need some time to regroup, to de-stress, and to be reminded that they are more than just someone’s laundry lady (unless dad does the laundry, which sounds like a great plan!).
Sometimes, however, it can be really really challenging for mothers to “turn off” the mom brain. It’s no surprise, since being a boss is a lot of responsibility. This means that gifts for mothers need to kind of “force” them to take time to slow down and care for themselves. Here are a few examples of gifts that can facilitate some relaxing experiences for mom to unwind:
- Gifts for Alone Time:
- creative outlets (like journals or adult coloring books)
- soothing body care products
- Gifts for Family Time:
- cooking tools to make your favorite family recipe
- games to play together
- A photo album to look through together, to remember special times
You’ll notice that the gifts for “alone time” are all self-care items. This is no coincidence. Moms, more than anyone, are often notorious for putting aside time to themselves to take care of their mental and physical health. Mother’s Day is a chance to remind mothers everywhere that self-care should be a priority, and to make that happen for them, even if it’s just for one day. Give mom a little care package, leave the house for the afternoon, and let mom relax. Alone.
The gifts that you would give for family time are to remind mom why she even wanted to be a mom in the first place – her children! Making moments happen where she can reflect on the wonderful times she has with her children and her family in general can mean so much for a mom. She works so hard day to day that it can be difficult to find the time to take a step back and look at the bigger picture – she is helping form some human beings into good people! She’s not only doing the basic task of keeping her children alive, but she’s also incorporating experiences and special celebrations into their lives.
Ultimately, whatever you do to celebrate the mothers in your life, I hope that you’ll consider including time in your plans. Some time together, of course, but also some time for mothers to be alone and rest and recharge. Moms are people too, after all, and they need self-care just as much as anyone else. In fact, I would say moms need it even more!
So, what do you typically do for the mothers in your life on Mother’s Day? If you’re a mom, have you ever received any special gifts or celebrations?
Wishing you all a Happy Mother’s Day!